An Open Letter to the LGBT Community

by - November 04, 2017



Dear human beings, those of you who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or something else,

I am so sorry. Sorry for the pain, sorry for those of us who do not know how to speak to you, sorry for what you have had to endure. I ask for your forgiveness for those who are rude and blunt and tell you you’re less than human.

But at the same time, despite my sorrow and sympathy, I cannot endorse your life choices, nor the fact that you are going against what my God says through the Bible. You see, I am a Christian. And I know you have been cut by us in the past. Let me explain, with grace, why I, as a Christian, cannot support what you call “love.”

In the Bible, God calls the church the “bride of Christ.” Jesus Christ, our redeemer, is the Husband of the Church as a whole. It gets weird if you think about it too much, but marriage here on earth is meant to be a picture of this relationship: Christ, the Perfect Bridegroom, and his Bride, the Church. The husband is meant to represent Christ, and the wife is meant to represent the church. This is where most of the “traditional” views of marriage come from in Christianity, whether they be that marriage is exclusive to a man and a woman, or that the husband is the head of the home. It’s a picture of what our Savior has done for us.

This is why I see homosexuality as wrong, just as I see it as wrong when I look at divorce and adultery. It profanes the perfect image that God set out for us, and makes what he has done less valuable. Adultery takes the image of Christ and the church and attaches a third party who should not be there; divorce severs that image, destroying it. And homosexuality takes that picture and twists it so that the Church is a man or Christ a woman. And that cannot be. No matter what the liberal denominations say, that cannot be.

As for transgenderism: In Genesis 1:27, the Bible says, “Then God created mankind in his image, after his likeness; in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” You, as a human, were made in the image and likeness of God to be male or female. He made you as a great work of art, and it takes what he has made and twists it when you decide that what he has done isn’t good enough.

I don’t believe that homosexuality always stems from a choice; however, I do think that whether or not you stay in it is a choice. The church that tells you it doesn’t matter to God whether you’re homosexual or not –that he’ll still love you exactly the same—is lying to you. Consider the following link: (I promise, it isn’t spam or anything like that.)


As this comic says: I do not hate you, friend. There is no hate coming from me. I love you. I don’t love you in the way that promises to overlook all of your sin, and I certainly don’t love you in the way that promises you salvation when I know for a fact that you cannot have it with the lifestyle you currently live with. But I love you as a human. I love you, and I believe that you are valuable, and I want to help you. I want to help you heal the pain that so deeply engulfs you and your experiences.

Before you say that I’m lying to you, that I only say I’m in support of you so that I can hurt you, that I’m a Christian bigot, listen to this: In a real church, a church that supports the truth and preaches the gospel and proclaims the name of Christ, there are people who have done things as bad as and worse than you. There are murderers and rapists, ex-abortionists and women who have had abortions, men who cheated on their wives and women who left their husbands. There are teenagers who have slept around and those who used to sell drugs and take them. There are women with tattoos and men who worshipped a false god. But they all have one thing in common: That sin is not part of them anymore.

Christ says, “Go, and sin no more." [John 8:11] He says that “everyone who loves him will do what he commands” [John 14:15] and that those who would come after him “must deny himself and take up his cross and follow him.” [Mark 8:34] 

As the comic above says, “Even sex? Even my sexuality, my gender orientation, my identification?”

                And those who have gone before you, men and women who once walked as you’re walking, but then heard the gospel and were changed by it, say “Yes.”

                The church is a place of sinners. But they are sinners who have been redeemed. Sinners whose lives have been changed. Sinners who have rejected their sin and clung to the cross.

                Friend, will you not follow them?





Thank you for reading this. I understand that it's controversial, but if you've gotten this far, I just want to say thank you. I hope this post inspires you to thought--whether or not you agree with me. Please, if you want to talk to me, there's a Contact Me in the sidebar. Shoot me an email. Or leave a comment on this post. I'd love to talk to you. 


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52 comments

  1. Whenever I see people who call themselves Christians spreading nothing but hate and using the Bible to justify their own agendas, it hurts! I wish that everyone who misunderstands Christians could read this. Just because they are living in sin doesn't mean that Jesus didn't die on the cross for them, desperately wanting them to accept His love and purity. <3

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    1. It hurts a lot. I always wish that people would understand Christianity the way it should be before using the Bible to promote their agenda. :(

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  2. Faith, you said this with such grace and kindness in your words. My mom and I were just talking about this kind of thing this morning. I don't hate them. I don't agree with their choices and I personally believe it is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. I don't think that makes them crazy. They are human like me and you. But I won't condone what they do.
    This post must have been hard to publish, but thank you for doing it. You will inspire someone out there and they will see. God bless you, Faith. <3

    ~Ivie

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    1. Thank you, Ivie. I've worked on this post for several months now, praying that it comes out with grace and love.
      I do think that there are multiple reasons that lead to the lifestyle, but I do pray for them, and often. Thank you for reading :)

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  3. Finally, someone put it in words. I can't stand Christians who look down on other people, because of their lifestyles. You don't have to condone it, or support it, but we are all sinners.
    Great post, Faith!

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    1. Thank you, Skye. The thing is that all of us are sinners in need of grace, too, and while there are greater sins all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. So it is very, very sad.

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  4. Oh. My. Word. Faith, this is beautiful. Not only do I completely agree with you, but you have voiced your thoughts with just the right attitude - love, grace - while still not condoning what God says is, indeed, wrong.
    Thank you for an amazing post ❤

    Amy @ A Magical World Of Words

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    1. Wow, Amy, thank you for your compliment. I have to give credit to God for giving me the words to say. <3

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  5. Thank you for being brave enough to post this.

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  6. Amen! Couldn't have said it better myself!

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  7. You are so brave for posting this, and I agree with you and am behind you 100%.

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    1. I post it believing it's what God wants me to put up right now. Thank you, Gray. You're brave to put up a lot of what do too.

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  8. Amen! Thank you so much for posting this—it encourages me to stand up for my standards (which seem rally similar to yours) in a kind and courageous way. I think you are super brave for writing this, but the way you did it was so true!

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    1. Aww, I'm so glad you were encouraged by this. I know personally that it can be SOOOOO encouraging to see someone who reflects your views anywhere, and I pray that you'll be built up in the lord because of it :) Again, he gave me the words...I can't take credit.

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  9. Thank you so much for saying this. I haven't quite known how to express what I feel, but you nailed it. Everyone is promoting "free love" in our culture these days, but only Jesus can truly provide it. We don't hate them - God has called us to love even our enemies - but we do not support their actions and beliefs. Thank you for your bravery and love to speak the truth amidst a cacophony of lies. God bless!

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    1. I have spent so long thinking about it and talking to people who feel similarly and rolling in my bed...I hate the way a lot of people talk about homosexuality- like it's the worst sin in history and if you've done it you're already condemned- but then I also hate it when people condone it and celebrate it, because it is sin. So I've worked and prayed and struggled to find a point where I believe God and his people really stand, and I believe that this is it. I'm thankful he gave me these words, and that they resonated with you.

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  10. I'm behind you 100%, Faith. You said so beautifully, truthfully, and respectfully. Better than I would have done.

    "Love the sinner, hate the sin."

    Catherine
    catherinesrebellingmuse.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm actually not a fan of that slogan itself- I definitely agree with what it's implying, but it's been so overused in recent years that I try really hard most of the time to avoid it. But the idea is definitely right. The people need the love of Christ; their sin needs his blood to wash it clean.

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  11. Thank you for your words, and for linking the comic!

    Here in Australia we've just had a survey about whether the government should legalise same-sex marriage. (Homosexuality is allowed... just not marriage.) And sometimes it feels like Christians/the No vote are being demonised? I'm sure most people are very respectful in their opinions, but as always, the small and extremely loud groups dominate the media, and "bigots" + "[swear words]" is more common than it should be. Which is sad. I'm not going to scream at someone that they're going to hell; but I feel like, if I make my personal opinions known, there's a real risk that someone might scream at me??

    Sorry - the whole situation distresses me when I think too much about it. You've put this very well, Faith! We need to remember that we are all sinners. Homosexuality is not "the worst" sin - just this morning, my family read the verse in James that says [approximately] "he who stumbles in one point is guilty of the whole law". We need to love everyone and pray they come to know God, since if it weren't for Him we'd still be living in sin ourselves.

    (And you're very brave to write this! :)

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    1. Here in America, where marriage is legal, we on the right and who say no to it are already demonized all the time. I'm sure you're aware of the court cases involving Christians refusing to cater to gay weddings. It's heartbreaking to watch this happen, and I agree with you--I don't think that the Everyman really feels as deep a hatred for Christians as the media claims. But those who do are loud and get coverage-the all important thing right now.

      Thank you for reading, Jem, and I hope this blessed you :)

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  12. I agree with you TOTALLY. My family talks about this all the time. It's sad when Christians accept things like LGBT and act like these people aren't doing anything wrong. You've worded this wonderfully.

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    1. It is. But it's also sad when we utterly ostracize them and leave them no way to salvation. There has to be a balance. Thanks for reading :)

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    2. Exactly.
      You're welcome! :D

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  13. HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT A SIN!!!!! IM SORRY BUT YOU CANT DISRESPECT PART OF WHO I AM AND THEN SAY YOU STILL LOVE ME!!!! THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS HUNTY

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    1. Well, the Bible says that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Every day, all of us sin. I sin, every day. I yell at my sisters, talk back to my parents, get angry and smack someone, think a word I shouldn't have thought...and when I do that, my parents are obligated to discipline me. Some days they take away privileges, some days we just have a talk. But they always do it in a way that tells me that while what I have done is wrong, they still love ME. Not pardoning my sin--but still showing me grace.

      God does this for us too. And in his word he says to obstain from all sexual immorality. And you know what? That means I'm not supposed to look at a guy with lust. I'm not supposed to give myself to anyone outside a godly marriage. And if I do, well, I'm committing adultery.

      I know that this is a huge reply to your comment, but I want you to know that everything I said in this post, I believe with all my heart. And I've written it specifically to you not because I believe that you need to hear it more than a car thief or a serial killer, but because society has begun to persecute me and people like me who do not condone and celebrate homosexuality.

      Thank you for reading, and if you see this response-- I hope you'll read it too. I am praying for you.

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    2. Sin is everything and anything that does not abide by God's word. All sin is the same in God's eyes whether you're homosexual or whether you've ever thought a wrong thought. It's all the same. He saw that sin we committed, and how no one could ever be perfect or live exactly by the rules. He lived a perfect life, and still he chose to take all that shame and all our transgressions on himself to death. He died a shameful death, was beaten, and nailed to a cross, naked, so that we wouldn't have to be condemned to death for our sin. So yes, he loves you and loved you so much that he died for you, but he didn't die for nothing. He died because of our sin and our greed and our hatred.
      I don't know who you are, or what you you believe is right or wrong, but there's one truth and one truth only. The whole world can believe a lie, and it'll still stay a lie. I know this though: Jesus Christ gave himself because he loved you so much, and I love you as well.

      Revelation 22:15 —Outside are the homosexuals, those involved with the occult and with drugs, the sexually immoral, murderers, idol-worshippers, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood. ———I'm praying for you! Please know that you are loved so much, and I don't want this to be you. Please read this. I can't force you to believe it, but just see what He did for you. <3 I'm praying for you.

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    3. Thank you, other Anonymous person :) You said this really well. I agree with all of that. Especially that I don't want that to be you, Anonymous #1. I'm praying for you too.

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    4. You can love someone and not agree with their actions. A family member could go to jail and I can still love them, but disagree with their action. Love is a choice.

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    5. Florid Sword: You're welcome. I just realized that it may have been a bit confusing having two anonymous commenters. Sorry about that. lol
      Please pray with me and be in agreement for the salvations of those who are lost. <3

      Mark 11:24— Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

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    6. I genuinely cannot believe that you think you're discriminated against at the same level as LGBT+ people.

      LGBT people have been killed for their sexuality. They have been forced into conversion therapies. They have been denied access to restaurants and other such venues. They have been denied housing access. In five countries, being gay is punishable by the death penalty. Gay people cannot get married in Australia. They are told that they are lesser than because of their sexuality. Gay children are kicked out of their families and have a suicide rate seven times higher than straight people. Google what's happening in Chenchnya, Russia.

      But you think you're discriminated against because gay people are sick of what you say about them and are fighting back. You think you're discriminated against because people have rightfully pushed back against your discrimination towards others. You think you're discriminated against because homophobic bakers can no longer deny access to gay people?

      Educate yourself about discrimination. Because you have never been discriminated against as a straight person, and if you think for a second you have then I have my head in my hands in disappointment.

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    7. Hi, Anonymous.

      It breaks my heart to hear stories like that. It truly does, believe me. I'm pro-life and whole-life, and so I believe persecution of anyone for any reason is horrible. I went to the Holocaust Museum in DC and teared up at the display where it was stated that not only were Jews killed in the Holocaust, but homosexuals as well. I shake my head in disbelief at what happened to Alan Turing. Again, no one should be persecuted for any reason.

      I have not been persecuted because I'm straight, you're right. But every day my brothers and sisters around the world and throughout history water the ground with their blood in over 50 countries where Christianity is a death or torture sentence. I very much understand discrimination. And I wish it didn't happen to anybody.

      Please, my email is in the sidebar; if you're willing, send me an email and we can talk some more. I'd love to hear from you :)

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    8. Also: I'm curious where you came to the conclusion that I feel that I am discriminated against on the level of LGBT+ people. In reading through this post I didn't found anything that sounded like I was saying that. Could you tell me where you found that inferred?

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    9. Anonymous, that's horrible. It hurts me so much to hear what people are going through, and how people are treated. No one should ever be abused like that.
      This really has nothing to do with anything we've been talking about, but I apologize for what many people and even Christian people have said and done to homosexuals. It's wrong, and I'm sorry for all the mistreatment. No one should be persecuted, no matter what.

      Actually, statistics show that last year, every 6 minutes, a Christian was killed for his\her faith. Christians are abducted, beaten, tortured, raped, confined, isolated, etc. So no, we may not have been persecuted because we're straight, but we do suffer greatly.

      1 Corinthians 12:26 — If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.———We are one body in Christ. Like Faith said, our brothers and sisters die all the time .

      Anyway, I'm sorry again, and please know that you are loved greatly. <3

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    10. I hope I'm not interrupting what all of you are talking about. I just thought I should point that out.

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    11. I agree with LHE. People in North Korea, the Middle East, and many other parts of Asia are killed and tortured because of their faith.
      Jesus tells us, His followers, to love EVERYONE, no matter WHAT their religion or beliefs are. I love you. But that does not mean I agree with you. I even love the people that kill Christians across the globe. But I hate what they do. There's a difference.

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    12. Also, Anonymous, I am very sorry for what LGBT+ have to go through. Please don't take anything I've said to mean that I hate you or that I think persecution of that extreme is a good thing. It isn't.

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    13. Anonymous, you don't realize that bakers should have a choice to refuse to serve customers where they see fit if you have a choice to love who you want to love. Sin is sin. If it goes against someones belief to make a wedding cake for a gay wedding, (which they made other things for those people and they were also friends with those people, but the media won't tell you that) they should be allowed to refuse service.

      Its not a gay issue. Its not a homophobic issue. And if you were really confident in your choices, you wouldn't feel the need to fight other people on your beliefs. You might have doubts and that's okay.

      Faith is trying to say she cares and she doesn't want you to think you aren't welcome here. She loves all people. She just wants to help. That's what everyone is trying to say.

      Praying for you. God bless you. Have a blessed day.

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  14. Agree with you 100%, Faith! Thank you for posting this. :-) Blessings! XD

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    1. Thank you, MiddleEarthMusician. I'm glad it resonated with you :)

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  15. I agree. No one should be hated on, no matter who they are, where they come from, or what they've done. They should be loved. Jesus loved all people, no matter who they were, and we're supposed to be like Him.

    What's the difference between gay people (who are sinning in their lifestyle), and a Christian who does something wrong? There is not difference. It is all still sin. It's not up to us to judge ANYONE'S sin.

    Love the way this post is written. Hope you're having a good Fall!
    -Amaris

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  16. Thank you for tackling this subject. This was beautiful. <333

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  17. I don't know if I've ever commented on your blog before, but I love the way you can write on these controversial topics with so much love and grace.
    As Jem Jones said in an earlier comment, Australia (where I live) has just legalised gay marriage and there was lots of hate going around from both sides. I know that there are Christians who hate gay people and who do see them as "inferior". I also know that there are Christians who think that to love gay people they have to accept the lifestyle they live and so they do. Neither of those should be our response. Thank you for being brave and doing what you felt God wanted you to do. :D Praying for you. :)

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    1. Thank you for commenting, Chelsea!

      I'm so sorry about the situation in Australia. In the States it's been like that for a couple of years now, and I had no idea what was happening when the legalization first happened. I definitely agree that neither of those is the right response. And thanks for your prayers. I'll pray for Australia too. <3

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  18. Everything about this post... just thank you for talking about it. It's exactly how I feel and it is exactly the kind of message that we need going out: not of churches who genuinely do hate the LGBT or of those who are just "accepting" them without telling them the truth about the eternity. But this Biblical, Godly message showing, as my pastor said once, "God's uncompromising standard of both love and holiness."

    Thanks for this. :)


    Alexa
    thessalexa.blogspot.com
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    1. Thanks, Alexa :) These are the words that God gave me, and I just felt the need to put them out. :)

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  19. I'm sorry that you're unable to accept the truth: the LGBTQIAP+ community has no say in their identities whatsoever. Just as we have no say in our birth gender or where we are born.
    Which would you rather see: so many people collapsing from the effort of pushing away who they are to do "good"?
    Or successful human beings, accepted among enough of their peers to strive for an open future?
    I'm also sorry that you, and everyone, have to live in the current climate of our country. It's quite a mess.

    Discrimination towards those who condemn others and discrimination towards those who have no choice but to be themselves: two different animals.

    I don't know what it's like to walk around and see intolerance disguised as pity and conciliation.
    I'm sure it's quite a hard life.

    I'm not saying this to condemn you, either, but to make any reader stop and contemplate: would you like to be told you must repress not just sudden thoughts, but the part of you that you can't push away? And shouldn't want to in the first place if it weren't for discrimination?

    Just think...



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  20. I know this is so late, but I wanted to say that this really encouraged me to see somebody putting this up and using the BIBLE as their reference. It made me happy to see that some people are willing to take a stand against something the Bible defines as sin. Thank you so much for putting this into such a beautiful confession. <3
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  21. I read so much of myself in this post and we're in a good place now too - I should say, I'm in a good place.

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  22. (I know that you posted this a long time ago, but I'm still going to comment.) Faith, you are so incredibly brave for posting this and you have such a huge loving heart, thank you for showing us the right way to think about this! <3 I agree completely and totally in every way. <3

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